Let’s face it, we have reached an all-time peak of hustle in what I’d dare to call a modern way of life, but simply put it’s just too easy to feel overwhelmed and drained by our endless to-do lists. However, by embracing an abundance mindset, we can create space for ourselves to thrive and lead lives filled with joy and purpose. Here are five steps to help you incorporate a little bit of buffer into your daily routine:
Let’s get comfortable with “no”:
This is going to be tough, but I believe this comes with practice, so let’s start small. We’re trying to re-establish a behavior that has likely contributed to your overwhelm by saying yes to every possible commitment that has come up in your personal and professional life. There is an art to saying no.
First, let’s try to identify what’s important to you and on the flip side, acknowledge what’s not. If you’re not clear on when and where you want to spend your time, then you really aren’t going to know where you don’t want to spend it. I know this seems like an over simplification, but before you can say no with confidence, you have to be clear that you want to say no.
Giving a reason why you want to say no to someone’s ask may be appropriate, but pouring so much energy into an elaborate reason why you’re saying no can be just as draining. Recognize that it’s okay to decline invitations or delegate tasks when necessary to preserve your well-being.
Start thinking about your week ahead on Sunday:
We’re not saying Sunday isn’t for relaxing or pouring yourself into an activity that you want to do, which is why you’ll want to start your week with intention by considering how you want your upcoming weekend to look. We’re also mindful that your Sunday may fall on a different day, but it’s the idea that by keeping the end of your week in mind, you can prioritize tasks and make decisions that align with your goals.
Your time off can be filled with scheduled tasks with your family or friends, and I can personally share that we’ve driven all over our own metro area for kids’ soccer and lacrosse games, so if you anticipate an upcoming weekend that’s heavily scheduled, be mindful of how you manage your time and energy throughout the week.
This is also a great place to start getting comfortable with saying “no.”
Comparison is the thief of joy:
We’re looking for a win here and one of the quickest ways to lose is through comparison. And no, this isn’t about comparing yourself to who you were yesterday. Instead of comparing yourself to others, embrace your own strengths and limitations. Each of us has a unique capacity and ability for handling responsibilities and activities.
Whether you’re a multitasking marvel, effortlessly juggling numerous responsibilities with finesse, or someone who thrives on solitude, finding solace and creativity in quiet moments of reflection, it’s essential to honor your individuality and embrace your personal capacity. Each of us possesses unique strengths and preferences, and by acknowledging and embracing these differences, we can cultivate a life that aligns authentically with who we are.
Make a deposit in your bank:
As much as we love getting our financials dialed in this type of deposit is about making an investment in yourself by carving out time for activities that nourish your soul and bring your happiness. Whether it’s going for a run or a hike, enjoying a lunch date with a loved one, or indulging in a favorite hobby, make space in your schedule for activities that replenish your energy. No-one likes to overdraft their accounts, so making this kind of deposit will better ensure you have something to withdraw when it comes to the demands of your day-to-day.
Consult others for support:
This may be the hardest behavior to implement, but if the idea of creating some space in your life feels daunting, don’t hesitate to seek support from those that you’re close to or loved ones that you may have built some equity with. As much as you may think people don’t have the time or desire to help, I truly believe that we often get personal satisfaction by being able to offer something of value. Reach out to those who inspire you with their ability to balance their commitments and ask for guidance. Collaborate with friends or family members to develop practical strategies for incorporating some reasonable limits into your daily routine.
With any new behavior or routine, it’s important to exercise a little patience and be kind to yourself while you’re trying to shift your perspective and view this abundance mindset as an unattainable ideal, but as a vital component of leading lives filled with purpose and joy. Together, let’s embrace this journey and empower ourselves to live the lives we love.