Life throws plot twists like a reality TV producer on a deadline. From work stress to relationship turbulence to the never-ending news cycle, there’s no shortage of things that can chip away at our mental fortitude.
But hey, good news! You don’t need to be a Zen master or a Navy SEAL to build mental strength. It’s a skill, a muscle you can flex and strengthen when you put in the reps. After years of studying the habits of mentally strong people, I’ve noticed some patterns that you can totally steal for yourself.
If you’re already rocking these habits, you’re ahead of the curve. If you’re trying to figure out just one of these, there’s no reason for concern. Consider this your guide to a more resilient, badass you.
Find the Good in the Grind Even When It’s a Monday (or your Monday):
Let’s just all agree that the daily grind can wear anyone down. But mentally strong people find ways to stay engaged and positive, even when faced with mundane tasks or frustrating situations. Practice gratitude, find joy in small moments, and remind yourself of your “why” – the bigger picture that motivates you to keep going.
Change: It’s Happening For You, Not To You:
We are certainly creatures of habit, and do like when things go as planned. However, life can have it’s own agenda and is full of unexpected twists and turns. Mentally strong people see change as an opportunity for growth, not a threat. They adapt, learn, and evolve, using challenges as stepping stones to a better future.
Feel Your Feelings (Don’t Just “Deal With It”):
We’ve all heard the advice to “leave your emotions at the door.” There are certain situations where this may have to occur, but it’s easier said than done. Mentally strong people don’t deny their emotions, they manage them. They recognize when they’re feeling stressed, anxious, or frustrated,but they don’t let those emotions dictate their actions. Think of it like being a detective for your own feelings: investigate them, understand them, and then decide how to respond.
Talk to Yourself Like You’d Talk to Your BFF:
Would you ever tell your bestie they’re a loser who deserves all their problems? Of course not! Yet, we often talk to ourselves in the harshest terms. Be your own cheerleader. When that inner critic pipes up, talk back with kindness and encouragement. Your inner dialogue matters more than you think.
Upgrade Your Mental Software (Unlearn the Junk):
Sometimes, the beliefs and habits we’ve picked up along the way hold us back. Mentally strong people are willing to let go of outdated ideas and embrace new perspectives. Challenge your assumptions, question limiting beliefs, and be open to change. It’s like upgrading your mental software to a newer, better version.
Assemble Your Resilience Squad:
Life’s challenges are a team sport. Mentally strong people know when to ask for help and who to turn to for support. Identify your “resilience needs” – do you need a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, or a dose of tough love? Then, build a network of friends, family, mentors, or therapists who can provide what you need in those tough moments.
Confidence Isn’t About Never Doubting Yourself It’s About Handling the Doubt:
Even the most successful people have moments of self-doubt. The difference is, they don’t let those doubts take the wheel. They acknowledge them, then keep moving forward anyway. It’s like having a backseat driver who chimes in, “You know this isn’t the quickest way to get there.” but you confidently respond, “I’ve been this way more times than I can count, and I always get there”
Be the Encouragement Machine:
You’ll likely need to dig deep because this can easily get lost as we seem to be faced with challenge almost daily. Instead of joining the noise of negativity, be the person who spreads positivity and encouragement. Lift others up, celebrate their wins, and offer a helping hand when needed. This not only strengthens your relationships but also boosts your own mood and resilience.
Remember, building mental strength is an ongoing process. It’s not about being perfect or never feeling down. It’s about developing the resilience to bounce back from setbacks, the courage to face challenges, and the wisdom to learn from your experiences. So, embrace these habits, be kind to yourself, and watch your mental strength soar!